If you think you have it bad, I can bet you anything that Dumpster Divers have it worse. Dumpster Divers are what you never want to be, ever. The reason why: They pick up everyone else’s trash because they feel they are just not that fabulous.

I had this friend that anytime I would date someone and spit them out like waste, she would try to date them. For some reason, when I said they were disgusting pigs, it somehow turned them into her Prince Charmings. Yes, I have heard the saying “one woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure”. However, if you know that this guy or gal is not good enough for your fabulous friend, chances are they are not good enough for you, plain and simple.

But I still continue ask myself, why are there so many people out there that continue to do trash pickup on the playground when they do not have to? I believe that the answer goes all the way back to animal instinct and the natural selection process. A weak cat will attack weak prey because they are not fast enough to catch a healthy one. However, a strong cat can catch the strongest prey because they can endure the chase.

When animals hit mating season, the goal is to find that special chica/chico with the finest genes. However, if you, yourself, do not have rocking genetics, then, honey, bite the bullet and settle. As mammals, we have to understand the picking order of the world. Money, plastic surgery, and social power can change your picking order slightly, but if you do not have it in looks, personality, or self-worth, settling is what you have to do.

I am not saying that you have to look like Barbie and Ken, but simply knowing how much you are worth is very important. Having just a smidgen more of self-worth than the guy behind you, really makes a huge difference and believe it or not, makes you more attractive.

Here’s what I say: Look in the mirror and repeat to yourself ten times, that you are fabulous, amazing, beautiful/handsome, and quality. If you do this daily, you will begin to believe it. There is no need to settle with Ms. Wrong, Ms. Sorta Wrong, or Ms. So Not For Me. I have known many Dumpster Divers in my time and trust me, it’s definitely not someone you want to be. If you are not sure if you are a Dumpster Diver, then ask yourself this: Have I ever dated someone that one of my friends dated and dumped because they were an idiot? If so, then darling, I hate to tell you this, but you are an official Dumpster Diver and maybe even champion if you are a multiple offender.